Identify What You Are Rejecting

What’s Wrong With You?

If you’re like most women with low self esteem, you are quite adept at listing your shortcomings. They probably consume a large portion of your every day thoughts. But so far, you’ve only looked at them in general terms. Misery survives in the darkness of generalities and shrouds your ability to see clearly. When you bring your issues into the bright light of specificity the veil is lifted.

I’m a fan of the What Not To Wear. If you’ve seen it, you know the show is about more than about picking out the right pants or shoes to wear. The clients generally go through an internal transformation as well. It’s an opportunity for them to face all the ways they have been rejecting themselves in a literal and figurative 360 degree mirror. It’s a gift.

So what don’t you like about yourself? Get out a pen and paper and create a list of things you’d like to change about yourself. If you need help putting your list together, use the chart below. List items that you really hate all the way to your mild annoyances. We want to get rid of all of them.

Physical Characteristics* Personal
Attributes
Your
Behaviors / Habits
I am this but don’t like it… I am this way but shouldn’t be… I do these things (too much or too little) and shouldn’t….
Age
Height
Weight
Body Proportions
Skin / Complexion
Facial Features
Teeth
Hair
Distinguishing marks
Voice
Smell
Voice
IQ
Sexual Orientation
Lacking in self discipline
Unmotivated, lazy
Only does what is convenient
Quits, give up quickly
Apathetic, indifferent
Unreliable, irresponsible
Inflexible, rigid,
Unfocused, scattered
Wasteful, spendthrift
Stingy, miserly
Ungrateful, unappreciative
Procrastinates
Dishonest
Gossip
Eating
Exercising
Smoking
Alcohol use
Illegal drug use
Gambling
Sleep
Television
Shopping
Work
Crime
Sex

* God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

 


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Having a low opinion of yourself is not 'modesty'. It's self-destruction. Holding your uniqueness in high regard is not 'egotism'. It's a necessary precondition to happiness and success.

- Bobbe Sommer

By changing nothing, nothing changes.

- Tony Robbins