What Does High Self Esteem Look Like?

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High self-esteem is not an all or nothing game. For a lot of us, we can float anywhere on the self-assurance spectrum depending on our mood, frame of mind, thoughts about our current circumstances (or PMS cycle). It’s easy to spot the behaviors of people with self-confidence but self-esteem is more of an internal thought process fueled by beliefs.

Beliefs, Feelings and Perspectives of Those with High Self Esteem:

Liking who they are and having a favorable opinion of themselves.

Liking who they are and having a favorable opinion of themselves.
“ I think I’m a cool person. I enjoy my own company.”

Overall feeling of capability and adequacy.
“I have things to learn and might not be brilliant at everything, but I generally think that no matter what happens, I can handle it and will be okay.”

Sense of personal value independent of other’s opinions.
“Some will like me, some won’t. I know I’m a worthwhile person in either case.”

Hopeful feelings towards the future and potential for accomplishment.
“I feel excited about my future because I know anything is possible!”

Consider themselves worthy.
“I’m worthy of consideration and respect.”

Understanding that mistakes say nothing about inherent value.
“Mistakes happen. They’re a natural part of the learning process and doesn’t mean diddly-squat about me as a person. Everyone makes them.”

Personal ownership for their own feelings and reactions.
“I don’t blame others for my feelings. Why would I? I’m the one in charge of me.”

Belief in all humanity.
“I don’t put anyone on a pedestal and no one is beneath me. I think we’re all valuable in our own way.”

Feeling of self-respect based on being, not doing.
“I’m valuable in my own right. I’m here aren’t I?”

Trusting thought processes and intuition.
“I have faith in my ability to figure things out and make good decisions. I trust my gut when it tells me something is a bit off.”

A tendency to reflect on memories of accomplishments with pride.
“When I think about what I have achieved, I feel a great sense of self-satisfaction. Even in the little things.”

Optimistic perspective.
“I tend to look for the good and opportunities in most situations. There’s always something useful to come out of it.”

Comfortable around people.
“I feel at ease around people because I’m myself, warts and all.”

Openness to outside perspectives
“I’m willing to entertain other people’s opinions. Sometimes it’s fascinating.”

A tendency towards self improvement.
“I love feeling like I’m constantly learning and growing. It feels like progress.”

Openness to challenges.
“Challenges are a chance for me to test myself and expand. There’s nothing to lose.”

Sense of humor.
“I laugh at myself all the time. I’m hysterical!”

Gracious with compliments.
“Like most women I enjoy compliments. I just smile and say thank you. I’m not one of those ‘oh, this old thing?’ kinda ladies.”

Encouraging towards others.
“It feels good to acknowledge their accomplishments. Why not? It’s no skin off my back.”

Did you see yourself in any of these beliefs? If yes, celebrate! If not, no worries. You will get there. Raising your self esteem is more a process of eliminating blockages than something you created out of thin air. You were born with a sense of worth. Your interpretation of events may have eroded that. Once you remove the obstacles towards self esteem, it will bubble up naturally. But first let’s take a closer look at self love.

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I didn't belong as a kid, and that always bothered me. If only I'd known that one day my differentness would be an asset, then my early life would have been much easier.

- Bette Midler

I've learned to take time for myself and to treat myself with a great deal of love and respect 'cause I like me.... I think I'm kind of cool.

- Whoopi Goldberg