Dealing with Depression & Low Self-Esteem

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coping with depression

It’s tough living life feeling worthless, incapable, or like a failure. It’s completely understandable that you would find ways of coping with the pain to ease your way. These coping strategies can vary in degree of social acceptance. Some of them are obvious, others not so much. Here are some of the options people use to numb, distract, and cope with low self-esteem.

The Obvious Coping Strategies

  • Illegal Drugs
  • Smoking
  • Alcohol
  • Prescription medications
  • Over eating
  • Binging and purging
  • Excessive time spent on movies, tv, videos, games, etc.
  • Random sexual affairs
  • Shopping beyond your means
  • Hording
  • Cutting

The Not-So-Obvious Coping Strategies

The list above is viewed as unhealthy by society, but they all serve the same purpose – to comfort and distract yourself from pain. There are more socially acceptable ways of coping with emotional pain. What distinguishes this list of behaviors below from a position of empowerment is that they are REQUIRED in order for you to feel good about yourself. If you don’t do these things, you feel anxious and uptight. When you do them, you feel better.

I MUST do these things in order to feel good about myself…

  • Be Productive / Get Stuff Done: (To feel that you have value.)
  • Give and Help Others: (To see yourself as a good person.)
  • Ensure You Are Liked: (If everyone else likes you, you must be okay.)
  • Be Successful: (Demonstrates your value and importance.)

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Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will spend its whole life believing that it is stupid.

- Albert Einstein

When I was 19 years old, I came down with anorexia. I had it for about a year before it became public. And it had a lot to do with my self-esteem.

- Tracey Gold