The Self Awareness Questions

Relationship Questions:
Who Are You In Relationships?

Categories of Questions:

Personal|Social|Relationships|Financial|Career|Spiritual|Who Do You Admire?

If NOT currently in a romantic relationship...

What is your definition of love? (not based on Dictionary)

What are your primary beliefs about love?
Where/when did you acquire those beliefs?
Are you still satisfied with your beliefs or do you want to change them?
Why or why not?

What qualities or behaviors does your lover need to have in order for you to feel the most loving toward them?
Why are those qualities or behaviors significant to you?

What are three qualities or behaviors in a lover where you feel the most loved by them?
What do those qualities or behaviors mean to you?
Why those three qualities?

What two physical characteristics do you want in a lover?

What specific personality characteristics do you want in a lover?
Why do you want those characteristics in a lover? How would you benefit if your lover had those qualities?
Which of those characteristics are deal- breakers (your partner must have them or you won’t be in the relationship)?

How would you feel if you never found a person for a long-term relationship?
Could you have a fulfilling life without a significant relationship?
Why or why not?

Describe a lifestyle you could get really excited about living without a partner.
What type of work would you be doing?
What would your social life look like?
What kind of activities would you do?
What is one step you could take today to start creating that life?

If currently in a marriage/partnership...

What is your definition of love? (not based on Dictionary)

What are your primary beliefs about love?
Where/when did you acquire those beliefs?
Are you still satisfied with your beliefs or do you want to change them?
Why or why not?

In what situations do you feel the most love for your partner?
Why those situations?
How are you feeling about yourself in these situations?

In what situations do you feel the most loved by them?
What those situations?
How are you feeling about yourself in these situations?

Are you mostly happy in your current relationship?
Why or why not?

What is the single biggest problem you see in the relationship?
Is this something within your power to change?
Why or why not?

What are three behaviors you wish your partner would change?
Why are those three behaviors important to you?
Would you stay in the relationship if you knew your partner was never going to change any of those behaviors?
Why or why not?

What did you appreciate about this person when you first met them?
Do you still appreciate those things?
What do you appreciate about them now?
Why are those qualities important to you?

What is the single biggest attitudinal change you could make that would enhance your relationship?
When you imagine making that change, how do you feel?

Do you see any pattern to the answers you gave above?
If so, what is the pattern?

Is there a general theme to your relationship, based on your answers?
If so, what would that theme be?

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