Find and Express Appreciation
3.) Tap Into Gratitude
Stop for a moment and think of someone in your life that you’re grateful for. Have someone in mind? Now really focus on that person. What do you appreciate about them? What specifically do you really like about them? What do they bring to your life? Close your eyes and focus on what you love about them. Go ahead, I’ll wait.
Now, how did you feel when you did that? Felt pretty good, didn’t it? When we focus on our appreciation and gratitude for the things and people in our lives, we encourage our own awareness of the happiness that is already there for the picking.
Gratitude is one of those characteristics that is almost always present when feeling happy. What you focus on becomes more impactful in your life. Make gratitude a larger aspect of your thoughts. You can end the pain by simply changing your focus.
Try an experiment. Take 10 minutes of your time and make a list of all the things you're truly thankful for in your life. Stay away from the “I should be grateful for this” and stick with only those things that in your heart you feel thankful for. Then notice how you feel afterwards. You'll be surprised.
If you're not in the habit of experiencing or expressing appreciation, you may have to set notes around your home to help remind you. If you keep a journal you may want to list one thing you feel grateful for every day. When I was first doing this I found myself actively looking for things to appreciate. After a while, it became second nature to me.