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If one advances
confidently in the direction of his dreams and endeavors to live the life
which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.
- Henry David Thoreau
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Self creation is about creating yourself all over again.
Starting fresh and rebuilding yourself to become the very best you, you've
ever imagined. It's about becoming the person you want to be and creating
a life that reflects that vision.
You can't really do this until you have the ground work
established. What is the ground work? 1.) Taking
Ownership 2.) Self
Awareness and 3.) Self Acceptance.
Taking Ownership
You can not create yourself and your life anew without taking personal
responsibility for who and where you are right now. I do not mean responsibility
in a sense of blame or judgment, but responsibility so far as ownership
and control.
This life is yours. Take the power to control your own life. No
one else can do it for you. Take the power to make your life happy.
- Susan Polis Schutz
For many, it is a major paradigm shift when they begin to see themselves
and everything in their lives as a direct result of themselves. The idea
that we alone create who we are can be overwhelming, particularly if
you associate that responsibility with guilt, blame or shame. Taking
ownership isn't about judging your life, but simply seeing what's there
and knowing your part in it all. This is not about finding fault, making
judgments of right or wrong, good or bad, but simply one of ownership.
Yes, other people and events do have influence
on our lives, but it is us, and us alone who determine which influences
to emphasis, what meaning we give to those influences, and what beliefs
we'll create based on those influences.
You are responsible for your
beliefs.
You are responsible for your thoughts.
You are responsible for your feelings.
You are responsible for your actions.
I remember a story I heard about a father and his son. The father wanted
to get some paperwork done before he took his son to the park. To keep
his son occupied until he finished his work, he tore a picture of the
world out of a magazine, and then tore it into little pieces. He told
his son when he had finished putting the puzzle together, they would
go to the park. Expecting this to take his son quite some time to accomplish,
he was surprised when his son returned shortly thereafter with the completed
puzzle. The father asked his son, how were you able to finish the
puzzle so quickly? His son answered him saying theres
a picture of a man on the other side, and when I put the man together,
the pieces of the world just fell into place.
So to put yourself together first. Become clear about who you really
are. Uncover the enormous warehouse
of beliefs you've acquired from other people and our culture and
challenge those beliefs. Transform your self-doubt into acceptance, your
self-pity into self-actualization, your anxiety into peace, your confusion
into happiness, and your fears into love. The first step is knowing what
you want to be, do and have.
Identifying Wants
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